“A Kind Word is Never Thrown Away” 8-19-16

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No 34 Changing Lives through Dancing
By David Earl Woodbury

Friday, August 19, 2016

“A Kind Word is Never Thrown Away”

“Wise sayings often fall on barren ground, but a kind word is never thrown away.”- Arthur Helps (1813 – 1875) English Historian and Novelist

My mom, J. Clair Woodbury, taught me a great lesson. She said that immediately when you meet someone, find what you like about them and build an empire on that one thing. It is a wonderful way to life and spreads light and love to all. I see someone and I like their hair, their clothes, their smile, their handshake, their scent, their laugh. Then I TELL them I like that special quality about them. I then go on a treasure hunt for more diamonds of things I like about them.

What I have found is that, just like J. Clair, I never know a stranger. I’ve met strangers and we have entered into full conversations as if we have known one another for a lifetime. In public I have had many such meaningful conversations with total strangers that ended with a handshake, a hug, or a kiss. We just connected.

The other secret ingredient is a smile.  Recently, I was the front usher at the 7:30 mass. I was positioned at the altar, next to the organ, and my job is to help anyone who needs assistance. I was standing with my best Arthur Murray posture ready to assist, and an older parishioner sitting in the 3rd row loudly said, “Hey David, could you crack a smile!” His words echoed in the 1000 seat sanctuary. Wow, I was sure my face had turned beet red and I quickly put a smile on. I realized that being Visible, Easy, Useful and Ready was not enough. I had to look the part as well.

Needless to say, I always smile at mass now. I always say “Thank you” when passing the baskets and I greet everyone with a smile. This is called “The Habit of Happiness” and is truly a lifestyle.

“What can be added to the happiness of a man who is in health, out of debt, and has a clear conscience?”- Adam Smith (1723-1790)

Do I want to be happy, yes! How is that every going to happen? Well get this, it’s by making others happy. That’s the only way for me. When someone irritates me, I quickly realize that I am seeing something in myself that I don’t like, and I must pull the speck out of my own eye before pulling the plank out of the other person’s eye. When someone comes up to me in an angry state, they are usually not angry with me, they are having a bad day, a flat tire, a rough day at work and they need a good word from me and a listening ear.

I’ll never have a tough skin, I’m too sensitive, but I can laugh a lot and smile a lot and that has done wonders in my life.

“Great is the road I climb, but the garland offered by an easier effort is not worth the gathering.”- Sextus Propertius, (50BC – 16AD) Roman Poet

Life will never be easy, but it sure can be a lot more fun if those around us are happier. Give a good word to someone else today. Throw on an unresistable smile. Lay a great sincere compliment on someone. And don’t stop until they are smiling with you. You’ll thank me and they will love you for it.

Thanks,

Ending this blog with a big smile!

DavidEarlWoodbury@gmail.com

Keep on Trying! 8-12-16

 

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No 33 Changing Lives through Dancing
By David Earl Woodbury

Friday, August 12, 2016

Keep on Trying!

“But try,” you urge, “the trying shall suffice; The aim, if reached or not, makes great the life: Try to be Shakespeare, leave the rest to fate!”- Robert Browning

Do you ever want to give up? What a horrible question from me a motivator. You might be saying, “Oh, never. How could you ever ask that!” Well, I have been discouraged before and still experience challenges when it comes to keeping my Try-O-Meter on high every day.

Sometimes I see the road as long and I feel as if I’m driving through the desert! My personality is that I live for success. I am a successful person. I know how to make it happen and I’m a hard worker. Every day I only see opportunities to grow and realize my dreams. That way of thinking is the only way for me.

Many dancers who are in the top 6 have arrived because they never gave up. They started off as new pros and competed many, many times until they worked their way up from quarter finals, semi-finals, to the finals to being in the top three, to winning! They weathered all the wins and losses and never let go of their dreams. Then at the top, they continue to train and strive for success and perfection in their dancing. They then help the other new dancers on their paths of success as champions.

“The saints are the sinners who keep on going.”- Robert Louis Stevenson (1850-1894) Scottish Novelist

Because I am Southern, and from Southern parents, I always feel guilty. I always know that I am be biggest sinner of them all and undeserving sometimes. My mother’s middle name was “I’m sorry” and she was always apologizing for everything all the time.  It’s a thing from the South, but it never goes away. Not that my mom and didn’t know how to laugh and enjoy life, we just felt a bit guilty because we laughed so hard and often!

Weather I am a saint or a sinner, weather I deserve what I have or not, I just keep on going and I don’t give up. I cannot stand quitters and I just will never throw in the towel. Success comes to those who make it to the end, and they keep the success because it was fought for and was won in the battle of life.

“Remember that if the opportunities for great deeds should never come, the opportunities for good deeds are renewed day by day. The thing for us to long for is the goodness, not the glory.” – F.W. Faber

Not going for the glory is tough for me. I love the spotlight and the fame. Yet, many of the stars I know in my life are also the nicest people on the planet and they have maintained their goodness with their greatness. I love the fact that opportunities are renewed day by day, and that each new day is a new beginning.

If you read my blogs, I just pour out my heart that we have to all keep going in our lives and not give up. Why, because when we succeed, we carry someone with us over the finish line and help them to finish. At the end of a 5K or 10K race, tired and spent, you will see everyone sprinting to the end and they want to pass everyone running up to the huge FINISH sign.  It’s funny, at the end of a race, everyone is smiling for the keepsake photo, no matter how you feel, there is a big smile, then as you walk through the finish line, someone puts a medal around your neck and you truly feel great. You made it!

Please don’t give in or give up. I know that I am taking others with me on the road to success and I just cannot give into anything but the fact that we ALL are going to make it in our lives.

Put your arms out and “bring a friend” to the finish line in their life. You’ll find it’s worth every step of the way!

Keep On Dancing!

David Woodbury

DavidEarlWoodbury@gmail.com (email me if you like my blogs!)

A Passionate Sense of the Potential 8-5-16

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No 32 Changing Lives through Dancing
By David Earl Woodbury

Friday, August 5, 2016

A Passionate Sense of the Potential

“If I were to wish for anything, I should not wish for wealth and power, but for the passionate sense of the potential, for the eye which, ever young and ardent, sees the possible…what wine is so sparkling, so fragrant, so intoxicating, as possibility!”- Soren Aabye Kierkegaard (1813 – 1855) Danish Philosopher

There are some people in my life who electrify me. They are charismatic and are visionaries. Even an email from one of them gives me a chill, a laugh, a tear, a pause, a moment of rest, a ray of sunlight. There are those in my life who move me just by watching them in action. They cast a beam of light wherever they go.  And to talk to them, they are humble and do not feel their calling to serve others is anything less than a wonderful blessing.

“Surround yourself with people you want to become like”.  Now as I look around me, at the circle of the great pillars of strength in my life, I am surrounded with great leaders, mentors, givers, actuators, organizers, thinkers, inspirers, innovators, guides, teachers, examples of a good life, motivators, uplifters, guides, supporters, and humble servants. Yes, I do want to become just like those who surround me with their love and support.

Dancers always ask me “How do I get better in my dancing?” My answer is always the same, get on the dance floor and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Enter a dance competition. Scare yourself silly and dance in front of a 200-person crowd dancing a solo exhibition with your partner. Get out there and dance!

Do you know when you are ready to do an exhibition? It’s the moment you walk off the floor, for your first thought is “I wish I could dance that over again”. And you will dance it over again many times.

The best part of being on the competitive dance floor is that you are surrounded by great dancers and they pull your skill level up to new heights! A dance showcase is worth 50 lessons, for you come back a different, transformed dancer.  A major dance competition, one over 3 to 5 days, is in itself worth 100 personal sessions. You come back twice the dancer you were when you left, and you are then ready to tackle a new dance adventure. Your confidence is solid and your vision of your dancing is clear!

For the ‘passionate sense of the potential’, I feel it so strongly that it eats me up. Sometimes this passion is like a burning heat and consumes me. I’d rather feel passion for life every moment that to go through life without feeling and a strong sense of direction.

I have a friend who is lost. Completely lost. Not sure what to do, when to do it, how to do it, or even why to do it. They are beyond my help at this point and I just try to live a life of example for them. Every day I try to give a smile, a great word of direction and never cast a cloud of uncertainty or blame.  I remember when I was lost and I remember those who pulled me through it, and those that hindered me. To this day, I am full or gratitude for those who kept my light burning through the ‘dark night of the soul’.

“Tough times never last. Tough people do.”- Robert Schuller (1926) American Minister, Evangelist

Never envy others. Who knows, you might end up with what they have you might be miserable with what they have. The money, good looks, the luck, the family, the education, the possessions. You never know what it is like to be someone else so just remember that any rough time you might be having will pass, and you’ll be stronger for going through it.

I’ll leave you with this thought. “It will get better” You’ll make it. You’ll succeed. You’ll see light again. You’ll be alright and OK very soon! I love you. I believe in you. My heart goes out to you to share with you that it’s OK to see in life what is sparkling, fragrant, intoxicating.

Live it up, today is a miracle!

Keep On Dancing!

David Woodbury

DavidEarlWoodbury@gmail.com (email me if you like my blogs!)