Decide on what you think is right, and stick to it! 10-28-16

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No 44 Changing Lives through Dancing
By David Earl Woodbury

Friday, October 28, 2016

“Decide on what you think is right, and stick to it.”– George Eliot (1819 – 1880) English Novelist

Have you ever had an acquaintance who could not make up their mind and who could not commit to something? Someone who thought they knew what they wanted to do, committed to doing it, and then decided it was not for them. I know a person like that. Very frustrating and very devastating in some respects in life. Making a commitment today is the hardest thing to do. My friend is so bad off that they cannot even make the decision to change paths without help. It is sad. It is a mystery. It is a tragedy.

“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” – Aldous Huxley (1864-1963) English Novelist

My friend is someone of the “Universe”. Yet they cannot find the “white hot burning desire” to make a decision and stick to it. They give up when the job gets “too tiring” or “too hard”.

This has been a learning experience for me. My circle of mentors are all “take action” leaders who push me to success every moment in my life. I have no patience for those who cannot stick to a commitment. This whole experience has shaken me and has purged my own faults and has put my own work ethic to the test of fire. I have had to realize that I need to work harder and not give in to hard times and the tests that come my way.

“I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving: To reach the port of heaven, we must sail sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it, — but we must sail, and not drift, nor lie at anchor.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809 – 1894) American Writer

I have set my sails and am trying to sail with the wind, even when it is against me. I try to not drift and keep my anchor up until I come to the ports in my life where I briefly touch dry land. When I am around someone who does not set sail, who does not strive for the highest goals, who does not dream, and then live the dream, it hurts my soul.

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” —Maya Angelou

Sorry for the above language, but I agree with Maya Angelou, you just have to go for it in life and look forward and do whatever it takes to achieve your goals and see your dreams come true. If you know someone in your life, as I know in mine, who cannot “set sail”, be aware. They will try to bring you to their level and destroy your dreams, kill your soul, and darken your life’s mission. They will crush the life out of your heart and lead you down a road of sorrow.  You will want to help them desperately, but you cannot help someone whose heart has forgotten how to dream the dream of life.

My encounter with my friend has caused me great heartache, grief, sadness, and has created a sense of loss. It is just the way it is. This will probably not change for them. My answer is that time is the best doctor for all things.

What to do now? For me, it is to move on and hold on to my own hopes and dreams, and continue until I see the light at the end of the “dark night of the soul”.  My friend’s own emotional turmoil has actually taken me into the dark night, but yet, I do see light coming my way.

The old saying is this, “Surround yourself with people you want to become like”. But what do you do when someone close in your live is dragging you down, and you love them, and you want to help them and yet all attempts to help are in vain? What do you do when you have made a commitment to a dream killer and you realize that it was a mistake? What is the answer? What happens now?

“A man should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong, which is but saying that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.” – Alexander Pope (1688-1744) English Poet

The answer is this. There are two types of people in the world, victims and then those that are accountable.  I am accountable for my actions, decisions, and commitments. I am not a victim, I am accountable. Now, I’m using this experience to become stronger, purge the darkness that is in my own life, and move forward and still love the person who has decided not to take the journey forward. I am learning forgiveness (it’s hard) and learning how to still love them (even harder). I’m moving on. Moving on to new dreams and finding that my joy of live is still there and that there is still a song in my heart.

Do you have someone like this in your life?  Or, are you that dark person in someone else’s life? Do you see this happening with a good friend in their life? What do you do? How can you help? Continue being the great person that you and don’t lose hope. Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t lose hope in others and don’t lose faith in others and in helping others.

One of my circle of leaders and mentors just had a stroke. He’s in bed two months now and is just about to get up to walk. He is a leader. He is a man of vision and he has served hundreds and hundreds of people in his many years of leadership. His only goal right now is just getting up and start walking again. I pray power prayers for him daily. His illness has awakened me to what’s truly important in life, and what truly matters in life.  I am now counting my blessings and not crying over those who threw an away opportunity in their life. We do not know what tomorrow may hold. I know that I will be able to say, I fought for my dreams and strived to achieve my goals. Go for it, live your life and something good will happen to you today!

Thanks for reading!

David Earl Woodbury

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“A goal is a dream that has an ending.” 10-7-16

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No 41 Changing Lives through Dancing
By David Earl Woodbury

Friday, October 7, 2016

“A goal is a dream that has an ending.”– Duke (Edward Kennedy) Ellington (1899 – 1974) American Composer Bandleader and Pianist

Well, I’m a dreamer. I consciously dream and dream in my sleep. I day dream. I have nap dreams. I have deep sleep dreams. I awake dream when I’m walking and driving. My whole life seems to be a dream. I can nap for 5 minutes and go into a deep sleep and have a very long, remembered dream, much longer than the 5 minutes that I was out. I have reoccurring dreams, some over my lifetime. And always, I have new dreams that are fresh and exciting, sometimes scary. Many of my dreams have had their ending, yet there are some that I am sure will continue for a lifetime for me.

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“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.” – Mark Twain (1835 – 1910) American Author and Humorist

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This is a great quote for Mark Train shows us how to accomplish our goals. I think they are linked to our dreams and that we just have to take that first step, and the action of beginning will take us to our goals.

“I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.” – Helen Keller (1880 – 1968) American Writer

Imagine Helen Keller’s mind as she contemplates doing great and noble things. How she must have felt when she learned language and communication. Think of the light that went off in her mind when she realized that the world was a bright light and she was truly a brilliant person. What must have happened to her when she realized that she could help others in life through her example.

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“To be able to practice five things everywhere under heaven constitutes perfect virtue… gravity, generosity of soul, sincerity, earnestness, and kindness.” – Confucius (551-479 BC) Chinese Philosopher

“The ideas that have lighted my way have been kindness, beauty and truth.”– Albert Einstein (1879-1955) German-American Physicist

This blog seems to be about goals, dreams, and being virtuous…all good things. I’m all for goals as long as I realized that everyone loves to follow someone with light and hope. We all have different dreams and aspirations, and we all have our own special gifts and talents in life. We’re not all the same, and that is what makes us GREAT in our own ways.

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“No man or woman of the humblest sort can really be strong, gentle and good, without the world being better for it, without somebody being helped and comforted by the very existence of that goodness.” – Phillips Brooks (1835-1893) American Bishop

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“A Kind Word is Never Thrown Away. Wise sayings often fall on barren ground, but a kind word is never thrown away.” – Arthur Helps (1813 – 1875) English Historian and Novelist

“The world is good-natured to people who are good natured.”– William Makepeace Thackeray

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So many great quotes! Have a cup of tea and enjoy them once again!

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Thank you for reading! See you in three weeks! Aloha!

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